Monday, January 23, 2012

Should I Read my Oncology Report?

Today marks six years since I had my breast cancer surgery while I was 29 weeks pregnant with Kiera. My journey has shaped who I am, but I’ll be honest—I’m tired of it. I am deeply grateful to be a survivor; many men and women don’t get the same outcome. I started this blog hoping to encourage others facing the same fight, to show that a positive outcome is possible. But honestly… sometimes I just want a break from thinking about cancer.

Last week at work, I had a long conversation with a customer who had the exact same diagnosis I did. I really enjoyed that connection—it’s comforting to know you’re not alone.

I also talked with friends on Facebook about my lingering urge to read my oncology reports—ones I’ve never been able to get through. The last time I tried, I got three paragraphs in and read, “extremely high chance of disease recurrence,” and I cried for days. I wondered if I should finally read them all—maybe the doctor had changed his mind.

That’s when my friends reminded me what matters:

  • “Maybe GOD changed his mind! You’re here, you’re healthy! Why dwell on what someone said six years ago?”

  • “Will reading this enrich your life? Is it really worth it?”

  • “Make yourself a cake and celebrate!”

  • “Live life to the fullest!”

Don’t I have marvelous friends? I do. I know I do. No looking back—just moving forward and enjoying life to the fullest. After all, I’ve heard that 90% of what we worry about never even happens!

PS… I love you ladies!

Friday, January 13, 2012

Six Year Cancerversary

Today is Friday the 13th—January 13, 2012. Six years ago today, on Friday the 13th of January 2006, I was five months pregnant with my fifth child, getting a biopsy on my breast. As you know if you’re reading this blog, the results came back Monday: Stage II Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. That led to surgery, an induced childbirth, chemotherapy, and radiation.

Honestly, these past six years have sometimes felt like fifteen. It’s been a challenge, but I am so grateful to continue being a part of my children’s lives every day.

Here’s to another forty years cancer-free!